Sex therapy for men, couples and queer people.
When sexuality is tied to pressure, shame or withdrawal. A space where the topic can be spoken about without being turned into a defect.
When something meant for connection has become work.
Sexuality is rarely only about sex. It is tied to body, self-image, relationship, old experience and the way we protect ourselves from shame.
- Sex feels like duty, pressure or performance.
- Pornography or dating-app use feels out of control.
- Erection or desire no longer works the way it used to.
- Closeness is avoided because something gets in the way.
- Chemsex or substances have become part of sexual experience.
Slow enough to stay honest. Clear enough that shame does not have to run the room.
Common themes in sex therapy.
A differentiation-oriented approach to sex therapy and counselling.
Torsten works with a differentiation-oriented approach influenced by Ulrich Clement, David Schnarch and Esther Perel. Sexuality is not treated as an isolated function, but as part of relationship, identity, desire and inner patterns.
The point is less diagnosis, more differentiation: what expectations, self-images and attachment experiences shape what is happening now?
- Pattern analysis: behaviour, inner dynamics and triggers.
- Practical exercises for emotional and bodily access.
- Reflection without blame, but with responsibility.
- A shame-free frame and individual pace.
- Body-oriented work only when it fits and is agreed.
Desire is not a target. Safety is the condition.- Torsten Machold
Clear before the first conversation.
- Individuals 55 min · in person or online110 €
- Couples and multi-person sessions 90 min · in person165 €
- Reduced fee 45 min · in person or online55 €
- First call · phone or video 15-20 minfree
Private service. Statutory health insurance usually does not cover the cost.
What people often want to know before the first call.
01 Do I have to describe everything in detail?
No. There is no pressure to go into details. We go only as far as it is useful and feels manageable.
02 Is the practice queer-affirming?
Yes. Different sexual orientations, gender identities and relationship models are welcome.
03 Do you use body-oriented exercises?
When appropriate, yes: breath, body awareness and simple exercises for home. Always explained, never sprung on you.
04 What if pornography or chemsex feels out of control?
We look without moralising at the function and at realistic next steps. With substance-related risk, specialised support may be needed alongside therapy.
Let us look together at what might help right now.
In a free first call, you can briefly explain what brings you here. Together we clarify the possible frame and whether working together makes sense.