When you still want each other, but keep landing in the same pattern.
Often it is not missing love that separates couples. It is old injury meeting current stress, and the nervous system doing what it learned to do.
When explaining it one more time no longer changes much.
Many couples know what they want to do differently. Under pressure, the old move still takes over: attack, withdrawal, freezing, defending.
- You fight about the same themes again and again.
- After a breach of trust, nothing feels steady enough.
- Sexuality, closeness or distance have become loaded.
- You do not know whether to stay or leave.
- The relationship feels flat, empty or strangely unreachable.
No blame theatre. We look at what happens between you, when protection takes over, and what might become possible instead.
Common reasons couples come here.
More than communication: working with emotional safety.
Trauma can play a bigger role in relationships than people expect. Old attachment and protection patterns become active in closeness, not because something is wrong with you, but because the nervous system is trying to keep you safe.
The work slows things down. What is really happening? Which wound is speaking? Which reaction protects, and what does it cost?
- Strong emotional states are regulated carefully.
- Triggers are worked with, not fought against.
- Resources come before digging into painful material.
- Pace and stability matter.
- Inner parts can become visible without being forced.
Love does not fix everything. Structure helps.- Torsten Machold
Clear before the first conversation.
- Couples and multi-person sessions 90 min · in person165 €
- Individual session with relationship topic 55 min · in person or online110 €
- First call · phone or video 15-20 minfree
Private service. Statutory health insurance usually does not cover the cost. Private insurers decide depending on the contract.
What people often want to know before the first call.
01 Do both of us have to come?
Ideally, yes. Sometimes change starts with one person first, especially when a joint setting is not possible yet.
02 How long does couples therapy take?
That depends on the topic. Some couples need 5-8 sessions, others work for longer. The first call clarifies goals, rhythm and a useful frame.
03 What if only one person wants change?
That happens. We look at whether a shared concern can be found, or whether individual work is the more honest first step.
04 Do you work with queer couples and open relationships?
Yes. Different relationship models and gender identities are welcome and are not pathologised.
Let us look together at what might help right now.
In a free first call, you can briefly explain what brings you here. Together we clarify the possible frame and whether working together makes sense.